Updated: Oct 30, 2018
Pride costs more than hunger, thirst and cold. - Thomas Jefferson
In our society, we are constantly given mixed signals when it comes to pride. On one side of the coin, it is a positive experience to be confident in our abilities that make us who we are. When we achieve something we want to be recognized for it and feel good about it. On the other side, pride can be a very distructive thing. When pride makes us turn away from our hearts, it does so in a sneaky way. We become boastful, maybe even snobbish about ourselves. Or, if we feel a lack of confidence in our station in life, pride can sneak up on us and cause us to become negative, and turn our backs on love and gratitude.
James 4:6-8 tells us that we ought to practice a humble demeanor, "God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble". In the Bible, we see that pride is the root of all transgressions that lead to suffering. When we live in a state of pride, we do not have gratitude or love. We turn our hearts away from people we love, and become self absorbed.
Here are some ways we can overcome pride in our daily lives:
1. Have gratitude for other people
Thank the people who have helped you get to where you are when you reach a new level of success. Reach out and let them know how they helped you reach your success. Nobody can do things entirely on their own -- We learn a lot from others. We can even learn from those who are mean to us or doubt us. Have gratitude for anyone who has inspired or taught you things that helped you along the way. This will keep you down to earth.
2. Replace feelings of pride with love
Love heals all struggles. We might want to hide our struggles, even from the people who care about our wellbeing the most. If we feel shame about a particular shortcoming, we might try to hide it and even pull away from people who care the most. Let people in, do not push them away due to fear of judgement. Let the love from others in and love the people who stand by you to see you through hard times.
3. Do not make decisions from your ego
The ego can really throw us off course. When we become selfish or self-absorbed, we make decisions from our ego. Know your ego, and avoid making decisions based on thoughts from it. Ego thoughts include, feelings of jealousy or envy, self-righteousness, lack of empathy, superiority, love of money and power hunger. The first step is to recognize these feelings when they crop up. If you find yourself in this state of mind, take a step back. Do not beat yourself up over it, nobody is perfect. It just means you have to work through these things to live in a more positive way.